Hope this helps!
Those irritated by grain of sand best avoid beach.
-Strumelia proverb c.1990
...Just hover your mouse over your NAME link at top right of any page, in the links menu bar. You'll then see the drop-down menu which includes a link to your "private messages" area.
Note: members are able to send private messages to other members- you don't need to be 'following' each other to do so.